I guess that we all have expectations as to how out lives will play out, and what we hope to achieve. I certainly am no exception, over the years mine have changed many times. I thought that I would be a succesfull business man that I would get married have a four bed house, and have three kids. Maybe have a car or three. The problem with Adhd and Bpd is that for me anyway my expectations have always been slightly grandiose. I expect or expected big things from myself and my life. In the theraputic community, I finally found some peace in letting go of unrealistic expectations. I was worried that it meant I had or was giving up on life, but actually I have continued to find peace in that decision. The new choices, realising that less is more. My relationships with my family and friends, my pets a roof over my head food on the table. But also knowing that my expectations are different, actually in some ways more exciting. I have already walked a Camino so I know what is possible. I remind myself often that life is what you get to do with or try to do with it. I am no longer disapointed with myself but rather hopefull for what I can achieve.